I think back to those words I first spoke when I found out we were having twins – “how will we pay for college?” I was so completely unaware to the challenges of parenting multiples that I was oblivious that the 18 years prior to sending them to college would be way more of an issue than figuring out the financial aid.
Today was a really tough twin day – one where my bag of Chic-fil-a burst open pouring onto the concrete as I struggled to carry both to the car, and then in an attempt to get my keys and open my van door, one child darts out of my reach, running though the parking lot as a drag the other to catch up and get him before a car did.
Thank God for the sweet (random) woman who came up and asked how she could help – I shoved Brayden into her arms, and went back to fishing for my keys. “I think you lost a binky” she said. “I think I’m loosing it all” I responded.
Being a twin mom is ROUGH
sometimes almost all the time. I’ve read too many Twiniversity posts where moms debate back and forth on what’s harder – infancy or toddlerhood. The reality is that none of it is easy, it’s all impossible.
My mom has asked me lately why it is that being a “stay-at-home” mom isn’t enough for me, like it was for her back in the 80s and 90s. I wasn’t able to put my finger on an answer when she asked. Maybe it was because she’d already had a full teaching career before she stayed home? Maybe it’s because more women work today and I want to still be part of that world. It wasn’t until today that I realized that without this blog and GiggleBuzz, I’d likely go off the deep end. If I was purely measuring my success on days like today, I’d honestly feel like such a failure.
I still struggle to not get frustrated by those who poo-poo the struggles.
- “Oh I have two kids too – I know how it is.”
- “I’m sure in some ways twins are easier – they always have someone to play with.”
- “I would never put my kids on a leash, I just taught them to stay near me in the parking lot.”